I work full time, I go to school full time and I support myself through all of it. Women are raised to act pure and chaste and I find that disgusting. Being his little sex slave is my way of rebelling against a society that tries to oppress female sexuality. But nothing else gets me off quite like it. The other day he tied me to his bed, legs spread wide, while he went to run errands. It made me so wet knowing that he was out there thinking of me tied up back home, that by the time he finally returned and started fucking me, I came instantly. Sex is a mind game to me. I like to be manhandled, mastered and degraded — but only with someone I trust. No idea. But I honestly fantasize about bukakke.
Many women are "closet submissives. At the risk of "tooting my own horn," I have had many women refer to me as "The Black Christian Grey" as well as "The King of Verbal Seduction" a nickname frequently used on my adult-themed podcast program, The Erotic Conversationalist. To this day, I have a number of e-mail messages and messages on the popular social networking site, Facebook, from women who refer to me as "Sir," "Daddy," or "Mr. Currie" instead of simply "Alan. I have a number of audiotapes of me erotically dominating women verbally that these women have actually asked me to share with other women. Is this a "talent" that only I possess? Of course not. Any man with some degree of "Alpha Male" traits can learn how to identify, seduce, and train a woman who is what I refer to as a "closet submissive. The term "being in the closet" is usually attributed to a gay male or lesbian female, but there are a lot of men and women who are "in the closet" regarding their erotically submissive side. What many in society may be surprised to learn is that many men and women actually pay money to be erotically dominated.
We all recognise the popular image of submissive men who worship women and get off on being dominated. So why is it that submissive women are often perceived very differently? This response is perhaps understandable on the surface, but it misses the point. Sexual kinks and fetishes do not usually translate from the bedroom to the outside world, let alone to the boardroom. Surely the very point of equality is acknowledging that women can have the same desires as men?
Surely everyone should be free to indulge their kinks without shame or judgment, regardless of gender? I spoke to women who are happy being sexually submissive and asked them what they get out of it. Sex is the only situation in which I would be at all overly compliant. But in bed I want to be looked after. I need someone to be able to restrain me with just a calm word or a glance.
So it came as a shock that it turned me on when someone said it to me during sex — it was a real juxtaposition of hating something and being turned on by it. Sounds terrible, right? I cannot imagine anyone speaking to me like that in any other setting. Lucy disagrees. We find that it increases our connection as a couple as we share a fetish that we both enjoy immensely. And we communicate a lot during sessions, which improves our relationship as well as our sex life.
I took me a while to get my head round it all and it involved much talking. I love being able to enjoy the sensations and the experiences. The show is available now on iTunes here and on Soundcloud here. Metro bloggers Miranda Kane and Bibi Lynch co-host the show, chatting to a different guest about all things sex and relationships each week. Follow Metro. Think good cop bad cop — but with more handcuff action. You can also follow the show on Twitter here. The Fix The daily lifestyle email from Metro. Sign up. Share this article via facebook Share this article via twitter Share this article via messenger Share this with Share this article via email Share this article via flipboard Copy link.
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